The Definition of Success

What is the definition of success? Let’s ask Google….

The Definition of Success

Okay….. almost there…

The definition of success defined

Great! Here we go. As you can see, there are many different definitions of success. Google kind of scrapes the surface, but I would like to dig in a little deeper into what success means to me.

Success is clearly different for everyone. It can be measured subjectively and/or objectively. The type of society we currently live in defines success primarily based on monetary income and career status. Basically, how much money you have, and what you spend it on for everyone else to see… deems if you are successful or not. There is nothing wrong with that. But, personally, that does not encompass my definition of success.

I define success based on many different categories and subcategories of life. Let me draw it out for you:

Success drawn out

MY definition is very broad, but let me go into detail as to why I chose these categories and what each one entails.

Let’s start off with money. Money is, and will always be a part of anyone’s definition of success whether they like it or not. It is a necessity in order for us to navigate through everyday life. We all need enough to survive in this world, but the amount of zeros you have in your bank account should not drive your life. I personally see money as a stepping stone. Money allows me to pursue and enjoy the other aspects of my life allowing me to pursue my own definition of success.

Secondly, the social aspect of my life. Let me be clear about one thing, I do not think of my friends and family less than everything else in my life, but my definition of success includes them. (Reminder, this is not a pie chart ranking the important aspects of my life, but categorizing and illustrating my definition of SUCCESS.) Anyways…. the relationship I have developed or continue to develop with my friends and family is important to me. The positive relationship I hope to have with the important people in my life adds to my definition of success. What they say, or how they see me as a person is relevant. No, I do not allow their perception of me dictate my life, but I still take into account what they say in order to better myself and grow as a human being.  Who I am with them, allows me to learn and grow to become the best version of myself.

Thirdly, career. The ACTUAL definition of success in our world today. I do solely believe that the career(s) I attain defines my success. Growing up, I always thought you went to school, followed through with your degree with a career it relates to, you become successful in that one career, and you continue growing in that ONE career. I do not find any flaws with that belief…. however, I do not believe someone should have one career in order to be deemed successful. I personally would LOVE to have many careers, certifications, and letters behind my name. So when someone asks me “what do you do for a living?” I do not simply say one thing. I want to say almost an essay of different career paths I have either entertained or continue to pursue. 😛 I want my careers to be fueled by passion, I want it to be filled with education, I want it to be interesting, and of course, I NEED it to be able to inspire and help other people. My careers is a huge part of my definition of success.

LASTLY (OH MY GOODNESS FINALLY), my definition of success is defined by happiness. What’s nice about this broad category is that it encompasses all of the other categories mentioned above. My main priority is MY OWN HAPPINESS. How I view myself and how I feel about what I do on a daily basis MUST make me happy. I know there are off days (which I have a lot of) but in general, if I am happy, if what I do makes me happy, if who I surround myself makes me happy, and if little (affordable..ish :P) shopping trips make me happy, then I would say that I am successful. 

 

 

This post is dedicated to my boyfriend Aaron. Yes, life can be tough and scary but I truly believe that if you work at whatever makes you happy, you will be successful.         I promise.

 

New Year’s Resolutions SLUMP

Welcome back to my blog! I hope the new year has been treating you well. I know I’m beginning to feel refreshed and almost like a new human being after just a month of 2017. I hope the resolutions are still coming along! But… if they are not, let me help you out.

 

Many people start to drop their resolutions by the time February hits and I don’t  blame them, but if you can push through February, the resolution has a high potential of becoming a habit! But common rules stated by the media are rarely true. According to Lally (2009), the average days a certain activity became a habit for the 96 participants was found to be 18-254 days, but this does not work for everyone. Do not be disappointed in yourself if your resolution takes you weeks, months, or even a few years. Everyone is different.

 

I am not sure what stopped you from continuing your resolution whether it be time or money… but I have a few fitness resolution tips and tricks that may motivate you to stay on track!

 

TIPS:

  • Stop focusing on the end goal and focus on the process
    • Make yourself a step by step guide that leads to your goal
  • Make your resolutions realistic and achievable for you
  • Do not compare your progress with everyone else’s, just improve based on your own accomplishments
  • Forgive yourself for missing a day, just work harder the next time
  • Rest Days are important (I cannot emphasize this enough)
  • Plan your schedule ahead of time so that it works around school, and work
  • Only workout two times a week if three or more is too difficult
    • Consistency throughout a few months is a lot better than one hard month as people tend to stop working out completely… well.. until the next New Year
    • if you have a busy schedule, plan out 3 bouts of 10 minute workouts spread out through your day to complete the full 30 minutes of recommended physical activity/Exercise

 

To summarize, resolutions are difficult to keep up with, but if you allow yourself to make a few mistakes, give yourself realistic goals, and remember to take days off to recover, little steps towards your ideal body, a healthier you will come easily if you stay consistent and motivated. Everything in life is about balance, so work this resolution into your busy life and watch it slowly happen!

 

 

Lally, P., van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits formed: Modelling habit formation in the real world. European Journal of Social Psychology, 40, 998-1009.